The Brother, The Friend, The Associate And The Companion

Accompany the virtuous and you will become one of them; separate yourself from the evil people and... قارِنْ أهلَ الخَيرِ تَكُنْ مِنْهُمْ، وبايِنْ أهْلَ الشَّرِّ تَبِنْ عَنْهُمْ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Be sure to investigate before taking anyone as your brother, for assessment is the gauge that... قَدِّمِ الاختبارَ فِي اتِّخاذِ الإخوانِ، فإنَّ الاختِبارَ مِعيارٌ يَفْرُقُ بَيْنَ الأخيارِ والأشرارِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who is courteous to his companion will gain his acceptance, and one who is harsh to him will... مَنْ رَفِقَ بِمُصاحِبِهِ وافَقَهُ، ومَنْ أعنَفَ بِهِ أخْرَجَهُ وفارَقَهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who is not pleased with his friend except when he prefers him over himself, will always be... مَنْ لَمْ يَرْضَ مِنْ صَديقِهِ إلاّ بِإيثارِهِ على نَفْسِهِ دامَ سَخَطُهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One whose companionship is for the sake of Allah, his companionship is honourable and his... مَنْ كانَتْ صُحْبَتُهُ في اللّهِ كانَتْ صُحْبَتُهُ كَريمَةً ومَوَدَّتُهُ مُسْتَقيمَةً۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Be careful of the one whose friendship is not for the sake of Allah, for his friendship is wicked... مَنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ مَوَدَّتُهُ فِي اللّهِ فَاحْذَرْهُ، فَإنَّ مَوَّدَتَهُ لَئيمَةٌ وصُحْبَتَهُ مَشُومَةٌ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who does not assist you by [his] accompanying you, then his company is [actually] a burden on... مَنْ لَم يَصْحَبْكَ مُعيناً عَلى نَفْسِكَ فَصُحْبَتُهُ وَبالٌ عَليْكَ إنْ عَلِمتَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who does not overlook the mistakes of his friend will die lonely. مَنْ لَمْ يَحْتَمِلْ زَلَلَ الصَّديقِ ماتَ وحيداً۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who seeks a truly loyal friend, seeks that which cannot be found. مَنْ طَلَبَ صَديقَ صِدْق وَفيّاً طَلَبَ ما لا يُوجَدُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not accompany the one who lacks determination. مَنْ دَنَتْ هِمَّتُهُ فلا تَصْحَبْهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One whose friendship does not benefit you, his enmity will harm you. مَنْ لَمْ تَنْفَعْكَ صَداقَتُهُ ضَرَّتْكَ عَداوَتُهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not excuse one who is insincere in his friendship with you. مَنْ لَم يَنْصَحْكَ في صَداقَتِِهِ فَلا تُعَذِّرْهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One of the conditions of faith is [having] good companionship with one’s brothers. مِنْ شَرائطِ الإيمانِ حُسْنُ مُصاحَبَةِ الإخوانِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Associating with the ignorant stems from lack of intelligence. مِنْ عَدَمِ العَقلِ مُصاحَبَةُ ذَوي الجَهلِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Never take your friend’s enemy as your friend, thereby making an enemy out of your friend. لا تَتَّخِذَنَّ عَدُوَّ صَديقِكَ صَديقاً فَتُعاديَ صَديقَكَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم There is no life for one who is separated from those whom he loves. لا عَيْشَ لِمَنْ فارَقَ أحِبَّتَهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم There is no good in a stingy (or suspicious) friend. لا خَيْرَ في صَديق ضَنين(ظَنين)۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم A friend is not truly a friend unless he protects his brother in his absence, his misfortune and... لا يَكُونُ الصَّديقُ صَديقاً حتّى يَحْفَظَ أخاهُ في غَيْبَتِهِ ونَكْبَتهِ وَوَفاتِهِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not break off ties with a friend, even if he is ungrateful. لاتَقْطَعْ صَديقاً وإنْ كَفَرَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not trust in a friend before testing him. لاتَثِقْ بالصَّديقِ قَبْلَ الخُبْرَةِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not count one who does not support [you] with his wealth as a friend. لاتَعُدَّنََّّ صَديقاً مَنْ لا يُواسي بِمالِهِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not rely on your friend until you have tested him, and be extremely cautious of your enemy. لاتَأمَنْ صَديقَكَ حتّى تَخْتَبِرَهُ وكُنْ مِنْ عَدُوِّكَ على أشَدِّ الحَذَرِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who keeps good ties [and company] with his brothers makes their bond [with him] last longer. مَنْ أحسنَ مُصاحَبَةَ الإخْوانِ اسْتدامَ مِنْهُمُ الوُصْلَةَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who points out your faults to you and defends you in your absence, then he is your true friend,... مَنْ بَصََّركَ عَيْبَكَ وحَفِظَكَ في غَيْبِكَ فَهُوَ الصَّديقُ فَاحفَظْهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم