Flaws And Faults

One who flatters you for your fault, criticizes you in your absence. مَنْ داهَنَكَ في عَيْبِكَ عابَكَ في غيْبِكَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who sees his own faults does not fault anyone. مَنْ أبْصَرَ عَيْبَ نَفْسهِ لَمْ يَعِبْ أحَداً۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who is looking for the faults of people should start with himself. مَنْ بَحَثَ عَنْ عُيُوبِ النّاسِ فَلْيَبْدَأْ بِنَفْسِهِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Whoever disapproves of the faults of people but accepts them in himself, then that is a fool. مَنْ أنْكَرَ عُيُوبَ النّاسِ، ورَضِيَها لِنَفْسِهِ، فَذلِكَ الأحْمَقُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who belittles others for that which he himself does, then that is an imbecile. مَنْ أزْرى عَلى غَيْرِهِ بِما يَأتِيهِ فَذلِكَ الأخْرَقُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One of the greatest faults of a person is for his flaws to be hidden to him. مِنْ أشَدِّ عُيُوبِ المَرْءِ أنْ تَخْفى عَلَيْهِ عُيُوبُهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Nothing prevents any of you from meeting his brother who has a fault which he hates [and advising... ما يَمْنَعُ أحَدَكُمْ أنْ يَلْقى أخاهُ بِما يَكْرَهُ مِنْ عَيْبِهِ إلاّ مَخافَةُ أنْ يَلْقاهُ بِمِثْلِهِ قَدْ تَصافَيْتُمْ عَلى حُبِّ... —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم He who mentions your faults has not guarded you in your absence. ما حَفِظَ غَيْبَكَ مَنْ ذَكَرَ عَيْبَكَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم He who points you to your faults and guards [your honour in] your absence has spared no efforts in... ما أَلاكَ جُهْداً فِي النَّصيحَةِ مَنْ دَلَّكَ عَلى عَيْبِكَ وحَفِظَ غَيْبَكَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم A person’s cognizance of his own faults is the most beneficial knowledge. مَعْرِفَةُ المَرْءِ بِعُيُوبِهِ أنْفَعُ المَعارِفِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Never pursue the faults of people, for indeed if you think about it, you have of your own faults... لاتَتَّبِعَنَّ عُيُوبَ النّاسِ فَإنَّ لَكَ مِنْ عُيُوبِكَ إنْ عَقَلْتَ ما يَشْغَلُكَ أنْ تَعيبَ أحَداً۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Do not fault others for that which you do yourself, and do not punish (or rebuke) others for the... لاتَعِبْ غَيْرَكَ بِما تَأْتِيهِ، وَلاتُعاقِبْ (وَلا تُعاتِبْ) غَيْرَكَ بِذَنْب تُرَخِّصُ لِنَفْسِكَ فيهِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Pursuing the faults [of others] is from the gravest evils. تَتَتُّعُ العَوْراتِ مِنْ أعْظَمِ السَؤْآتِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Pursuing the faults [of others] is from the most detestable of faults and worst evils. تَتَبُّعُ العُيُوبِ مِنْ أقْبَحِ العُيُوبِ وشَرِّ السَّيِّئاتِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Whoever exposes his brother’s veil [and reveals his flaws], the faults of his own household (or... مَنْ كَشَفَ حِجابَ أخيهِ اِنْكَشَفَ عَوْراةُ بَيْتِهِ(بَنِيهِ)۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who pursues the faults of people, Allah exposes his own faults. مَنْ تَتَبَّعَ عَوْراتِ النَّاسِ كَشَفَ اللّهُ عَوْرَتَهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم One who seeks to learn about the secrets of his neighbour, his [own] curtains [of secrets] are torn... مَنْ تَطَلَّعَ عَلى أسْرارِ جارِهِ اِنْهَتَكَتْ أسْتارُهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Whoever searches for the secrets of others, Allah uncovers his own secrets. مَنْ بَحَثَ عَنْ أسْرارِ غَيْرِهِ أظْهَرَ اللّهُ أسْرارَهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Whoever pursues the hidden flaws [of others], Allah makes the affection of the hearts forbidden to... مَنْ تَتَبَّعَ خَفِيّاتِ العُيُوبِ حَرَمَهُ اللّهُ مَوَدّاتِ القُلُوبِ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Hide the flaw of your brother because of what you know is in yourself. أُسْتُرْ عَوْرَةَ أخِيكَ لِما تَعْلَمُهُ فيكَ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم Hide the flaws [of others] as much as you can and Allah, the Glorified, will hide for you that... أُسْتُرِ العَوْرَةَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتَ يَسْتُرِ اللّهُ سُبْحانَهُ مِنْكَ ما تُحِبُّ سَتْرَهُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم The most hated of all people is the fault-finder. أمْقَتُ النّاسِ اَلعَيّابُ۔ —Ghurar al-Hikam —غُرَرُ الحِکَم و دُرَرُ الکَلِم