Hadith #3297

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, the Lord of all worlds. May peace and blessings be upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), his pure progeny, and his noble companions.

The Hadith of Imam Ali (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) states,

It is from bad character to be stingy and abusive in demanding your right.

This Hadith highlights two negative traits: stinginess and abusive behavior in seeking one's rights. Let us delve deeper into the meanings of these words and explore their significance in light of the Quran.

The first word to be examined is (بُخْلُ) "bukhl", which translates to stinginess or miserliness. Stinginess is the act of withholding or being reluctant to give, whether it be in terms of wealth, time, or kindness. The Quran emphasizes the importance of generosity and condemns the act of withholding what has been bestowed upon us by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ). Allah says in Surah Al-Hashr (59:9),

And [also for] those who were settled in the Home [i.e., Al-Madinah] and [adopted] the faith before them. They love those who emigrated to them and find not any want in their breasts of what the emigrants were given but give [them] preference over themselves, even though they are in privation. And whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul - it is those who will be the successful.

This verse highlights the virtue of selflessness and the importance of overcoming the inclination towards stinginess. Muslims are encouraged to prioritize the needs of others over their own, even if they themselves are in need. This selflessness is a reflection of the generosity and compassion that Allah has bestowed upon us.

The second aspect of the Hadith pertains to being abusive in demanding one's rights. The Arabic word used here is (سُوءُ التَّقَاضِي) "su'ut-taqadi", which refers to behaving in an aggressive, harsh, or disrespectful manner while seeking justice or asserting one's rights. Islam teaches us to seek justice and stand up for our rights, but it also emphasizes the importance of doing so with kindness, patience, and respect. Allah says in Surah An-Nahl (16:125),

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided.

This verse reminds us to approach discussions and disputes with wisdom and good manners. It encourages us to present our arguments and assert our rights in the most respectful and effective manner. Being abusive or disrespectful not only goes against the teachings of Islam but also undermines the chances of resolving conflicts amicably.

Imam Ali (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ), known for his wisdom and knowledge, highlights these negative traits to guide Muslims towards better character and behavior. Stinginess and abusive behavior in demanding one's rights not only harm individuals but also have wider consequences for society. They create a culture of selfishness, animosity, and hostility, which hinders the progress and unity of the Muslim community.

Reflecting on this Hadith, we are reminded of the importance of embodying the qualities of generosity, kindness, and respect in our interactions with others. We should strive to be selfless and open-handed, sharing our blessings with those in need. Additionally, we should approach disputes and conflicts with wisdom, patience, and respect, seeking resolution rather than perpetuating animosity.

May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَىٰ) guide us to adopt the noble character traits exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and his Ahl al-Bayt (عَلَيْهِمُ ٱلسَّلَامُ). May He grant us the strength to overcome our selfish inclinations and to treat others with kindness and respect. Ameen.